In
relationships, one of the biggest actions that break trust is cheating –
whether that’s a physical affair or inappropriate texts/conversations with
another person or even an emotional connection that starts to take the place of
the one that you have with your partner. Many people wonder how others can stay
with someone who has cheating on them. However, sometimes when you have been
cheated on, there are so many factors that are influencing your thoughts and
emotions.
If both
people want the relationship, both may have to make sacrifices to get through
the time of healing. I say both, because trust needs to go both ways and the
rebuilding of the relationship has to happen on both ends. Sometimes negative
patterns in the relationship has caused one or both partners to seek positive
attention and affection elsewhere. I’m not saying this is the right way to
handle the situation; I’m just saying that this is sometimes what happens.
Finding out what was missing within the relationship leads to both partners
making changes to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
However, as
for trust, there may be certain things that the other partner wants to do
temporarily in order to alleviate anxiety that comes with broken trust. This
could be on a spectrum of checking the other person’s phone, replying to text
messages after work hours more quickly, being clear about what activities are
being engaged in, checking in more often when running late, not going to a
certain place or activity without the partner. These things will be time
limited and may be revised or revisited every so often to see how the trust is
building or not building.
