If we aren’t
balanced and in harmony with our selves, it can bring chaos into our
interpersonal relationships. When we feel unbalanced due to past pain that has
not been resolved, this impacts our mental health which influences our
communication with others. This can cause us to not be living up to our own
expectations of morals in how to treat others and can cause us shame and
embarrassment which again impacts our mental health and becomes a vicious
cycle.
In
communicating with others, it’s important to view the interaction in the
present. This means to view the interaction without having feelings from past
events – whether with that person or from other experiences. This does not mean
that if that person significantly hurt you in the past that you forgive them
and allow them access to your vulnerability again. But it does mean that within
a relationship, you aren’t keeping ‘score’ or ‘going back in the file’ to past
events and using them to win an argument in the present. View the interaction
for solely what it is in the present.
Our spirit
and morals impact how we interact with others. Our mind and body can influence
that interaction by impacting tone, expressions, wording, etc. It does this
because if we are in pain and someone that we are communicating with doesn’t
know that, we may be making a facial expression due to the pain and the other
person may interpret that as a negative emotions toward themselves.
We like to
think that we aren’t wrapped up in ourselves but most people really are –
whether our of a grandiose ego or whether out of fear that others are judging
them. We will talk about the best way to make this clear to others though.
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